Um ok, you know all this stuff that dcm has been telling you and yet you still want to keep them? I truly don't think dcd's employer attitude is the only issue you're dealing with here. Just from what you've told us here, this woman is a tad crazy! Even though you'd miss their dd(who I feel deeply sorry for having parents like that!!)there will be other children that you and your dcks will become attached to.
There is absolutely no way I would keep any dcp who uses me as their personal therapist or treats me like their employee, no matter how much I love their child.
I'm sure Nannyde or BC can offer you guidance as far as protecting yourself and your business if you term but wow, you do need to rid yourself(and your dc) of this toxic family asap. Call your local resource agency or licensing and ask for suggestions too.
Never keep a dcf out of fear. They'll keep you right where they want you.
