Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
I would have done the EXACT same thing as you, except the mom would have left KNOWING I was the one upset.
2 yr olds don't know impulse control and do occasionally hit their peers when frustrated, angry or upset but not adults.
Most children view adults as the authority figure and not as a peer, therefore not someone they can hit.
I would let mom know that you will NOT tolerate a child that thinks it is okay to hit an adult. My reaction to being hit would have been strong enough that DCB would have instantly known that his actions were NOT acceptable.
I know others will get offended by this but it's a lot like training a dog. I am NOT saying kids are dogs...I am saying the methods in which we teach appropriate behaviors and unacceptable behaviors is VERY similar.
I hope your little one is okay. Sounds as if he really got banged up.
((hugs)) to him.
I am sorry the DC boy hit you. In my 20+ years as a provider it's only happened to me once. Not because of anything I did or do differently than you but just that I've been lucky enough that it hasn't happened more than once. In my case, the child was ALOT older and termed immediately.
I have however been witness to kids hitting their parents at pick up and continually amazed at the willingness of parents to accept this type of behavior as "normal" or developmentally appropriate. I do NOT believe it is at all.
I think with the type of parents and parenting styles I've seen the last few years this will become more common. Still UNacceptable in my book but more common as more and more parents struggle with having to be the parent, leader and/or alpha in their family units.
Thank you!
While waiting for the mom to pick up I put the DCB at my cool down table (nice way of saying time out :-) and he sat there and chewed the paint off the back of my chair. This DCB was really struggling today!! I hope he doesn't continue to act this way.
I do agree with you...parenting styles are changing and not for the better! My little one is ok, feeling hurt more than anything.