Originally Posted by Cat Herder:
In my experience, kids are able to go to the bathroom independently in the 3 year old room.
Just like at home they watch for the bathroom to be free, then they go quietly on their own, without waking others. They then return to their own mats to wait until naptime is over.
Generally books are allowed to be read quietly on mats during naptime.
At 3 , self help should be the goal, not calling adults to tell them she has to go to the bathroom.
Originally Posted by Logged out:
I don't think it's unreasonable for them to expect her to lay "quiet and still" for the remainder of nap - that's how I phrase it to my daycare children - and then are expected to lay without disturbing others until nap is over. However, they are allowed to get up to use the restroom - but they still have to do so in a manner than doesn't disturb sleeping children.
I would remind your child that they are allowed to go to the bathroom when they wake up, they may just need the reminder. I can't think of a 3 year old classroom that wouldn't allow bathroom use at least one time during nap.
And it may have very well been an accident too. My newly potty trained children, will sometimes hold BMs and they have a tendency to come out when they are relaxed and sleeping.
This. My kids are all told that they can get up and potty at any time. It's cute to watch them tip toe and shush their other friends as they pass by them.
It's a self help skill. You said yourself you have to watch for your daughter waking because she will just lay quietly. MANY children do this, so that's probably what happened at daycare. She woke, laid quietly, and either had the accident during sleep or after she woke. Assuming she was changed promptly, I don't see why you're upset. She was behaving the same at DC as at home.
