It sounds like a learned behavior- he's getting the results he wants for the displayed behavior.

You are right, he should be learning to be more independent and that may help. But IMHO, it's up to the parents to change this behavior, not the provider.

What you can do:
1. He's vomiting, you send him home (which it sounds like you do). Parents should not be making it a "fun" time or reward when at home.
2. Lay ground rules with the parent. Meaning no carrying in- two feet on the floor when entering and he takes off his own shoes. Crying/whining can be done in a designated spot away from activities (less attention given to the action).
3. Have a written plan for what you need to see changed and a timeframe you need to see progress and have it signed by the family. This is up to the parents to address with the child. They need to teach him how to cope (or get help if it truly is anxiety driven).

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