If I had a physically aggressive kid I would DEFINITELY tell the parents because they would definitely be looking for day care somewhere else. I have a ZERO tolerance policy for violence.
You hit one of my babies and you are gone that day.
The technique they use of they are upset if any report isn't sunshine and kittens in bubbles.... is a BULLYING move on their part. They don't get the luxury of not being told when a child is acting aggressively to another kid. They MUST know about it and let them know you will not tolerate it at ALL.
Tell them.
When they start blaming it on you then listen to what they are saying first. If you are having a supervision issue with her then rethink what you are doing. If you are properly supervising and disciplining and she is refusing to do as she is told then they must know. If they blame it on you then be SPECIFIC blow by blow to them to tell them what happened. Do not allow them to put it back onto you.
Keep repeating to them: I can not have her hitting my kids. I can not have her being aggressive with my babies. I can't have it. She can not be physical here with any of the kids at any time.
Over and over and over. Same phrase with the same stern face.
I'm not one to run to parents with every misbehavior at all. I tell them if it's anything to do with pre-violence or violence. I have no problem talking to them about what kids do BEFORE they hit, pinch, bite.... and get it stopped RIGHT THERE. When I talk to a parent about behavior they know ... know in a huge way... that I'm not playing and it has to stop. I can not have kids being mean here. I can't live like that and I can't have my kids around it. I can't risk my babies... all my babies from birth to five.
