Originally Posted by gumdrops:
So when she asks, do I just say "In a little bit"? I feel bad telling a kid "no" when they ask to go to the bathroom.
Side note: My post reminded me of when I was on a class trip with my daughter when she was 14 and I asked the kids if anyone had to go "potty" 
She was mortified
Is she skilled enough to take her own pants down/up so that she could go on her own?
She can be offered the opportunity during regular toilet breaks during the day when others are using the bathroom as well.
I don't have very many kids that go outside of our scheduled breaks and those that do can do it all by themselves so they really dont need any assistance from me so there isn't alot of asking/having to say no...kwim?
I agree with Snowmom and the lack of support from home will definitely hinder the process but maybe you could help by focusing on the self help skills required so that when the support from home does come in, she'll be a step ahead of the game.