Originally Posted by safechner:
I can understand that you are frustrated with your dcm who is not following your rules. I have to say that you can't give her a higher rates than regular rates due to his special needs that you can get in trouble for that. But you can increase her regular rates.
About autistic child being loud, well, he can't help it. Some autistic children can be louder or not but you have to be patient with him whatever you can. All autistic children are different. It kinda hurts what you said about this since I have a daughter who has PDD on Autism Spectrum. My husband and I work so hard to get some help for our daughter and I taught my daughter everyday. Her behavior was awful and we work so hard to get her better everyday. You have NO idea what I am going through. Now she is doing much better and I am very impressed that I work hard with her. He may be screaming out of his lungs due to lack of communication. As you know, there are so many autistic children have trouble to take nap time because they don't know what is it. My daughter was like that when she was younger. Now she is 10 year old and she knows my routine for her to go bed every nights. It took a long time for her to understand about routine. I suggest you and your dcm to work together as same pages to help him to get better everyday if you want to.
I actually have very LITTLE problems with the dcb. I have spent the last two years working with, getting him into a routine and figuring what his triggers are and what will turn those triggers off if it happens. I'm sorry if what I said about him being loud bothered you but I didn't mean it towards the dcb at all. I was frustrated because mom knows that when she picks up her son become extremely loud as soon as he sees her and still wanted to do a pick up in the middle of nap time. Dcb also has ZERO problems sleeping at nap time but if I had him out in the play room he would for sure wake all my kids up as he does get loud when he is stimulated. I don't have a problem dealing with this autistic child and I actually love him as my own, my problem is with the mom who is not cooperating with me.