Originally Posted by Kaddidle Care:
Sometimes offering a reward is all in the way you say it.
Ha ha, this reminded me of my own DS when he was about 3-4 yrs old.
If we went to a store and I knew there was a possibility of mis-behavior, I would tell my DD that she could have a $1 at the check out and she could either keep it or spend it on a treat (a treat for us back then was a Little Golden book..NO candy). Anyways, my DD understood and complied every time.
Then when my son came along and he couldn't have cared less about the "promise" of reward.
So one day, I decided to approach the idea a bit differently. I gave him 4 quarters when we entered the store and told him that everytime I had to reprimand him, he would need ot give me one of his quarters. If he had any quarters left at the check out he could buy a treat or save the money.
Shopping became a whole new thing because he totally got it and complied!!!!!
I 100% agree that rewards do work at times and how you deliver the reward or go about it makes all the difference.
My dd understood, "do=get" while my son understood "have=take away". Either way, I still got the desired outcome.
