I had a little guy like this once before. His parents didn't care, so I just implemented my own consequences. He went on a plan where he had to earn toy priveleges back. Before the program, he destroyed everything - books, the roof of my swingset, my son's heavy tonka truck in the sandbox.

He started out using just board books and stuffed animals. If he went a day without ruining anything, I gave him one more option to choose from. One infraction - even one - and we went back to square one and he started all over again.

He never earned back sandbox or swingset priveleges, and I did not feel bad about it in the least.

He was a tough child, and his family was just clueless. Sometimes you have to only concern yourself with your own environment. If his parents aren't on board, you really can't change that. You can change his behavior in your environment.

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