Originally Posted by daycarediva:
No way.
I think you need to hear it's OK to let him go. It IS.
If you don't like him, if it hasn't improved in the months he has been there, if he IS naturally louder, wilder, more physical and aggressive and you don't want that for your group- term.
Even as your shadow he is already managing to hit a few times/day. That WILL be multiplied if you're busy with a newborn.
I accept a LOT of new 2's into care. MOST do NOT behave that way. It is NOT normal to be THAT aggressive. It's normal for a very frustrated toddler to hit/lash out. It's NOT normal for that behavior to be near-constant.
I would let them know that if things haven't improved by X date (2 weeks out) you have no other choice but to let him go. He needs a place with multiple adults to manage him.
I agree and I would state that multiple adults may be necessary to ensure the safety of all.