I honestly thought the first letter sounded great--I think explaining things to her makes it sound more compassionate. You're making sure that she really understands that there is a REASON for this, that you're not just wantonly deciding to change things on her. The only change I would make would be to state the last paragraph as:

Take a few days and talk about this together and let me me know what you decide to do. I really think a lot of you and your family, and I really hope we can come to an agreement that works for everyone.

There are some other um, style things I might fix as well, if it were my letter. I'm picky about things like that though. I would be well-suited as a proofreader.

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