I had a two year old like this and she was my first home daycare child! I let her cry and vomit and told her when she was finished we could go upstairs for lunch. I asked her if she needed a hug. I completely ignored this tantrum. She never did it after that.

This is ninja level tantrumming and manipulation. No one should be crying until they vomit, it is not natural and most kids have some capacity to self regulate. She needs to learn that. Basically it is a learned reaponse from home. The fear of her vomitting keeps mom and dad giving her what she wants. So many parents say “but if I leave her to cry she will vomit”. The only way a child can self soothe is if they are allowed to express their full emotion, no matter how big, and calm down on their own to understand that not getting what you want is ok and they can calm down and live.

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