i agree with nannyde - you only have one dad so do what you need to do.

as far as the nurses not telling her anything - there may not be much to tell. unfortunately, nurses are limited in what they can/can't say and often when it's hospice care they are there mainly to make the patient as comfortable as possible at the end of life. it can be hard for the family (esp. a spouse) when they want to hear good news and there isnt any, and the bad news is reserved for the doctor to share.

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