Originally Posted by professionalmom:
UGH!! This just gets under my skin and makes me want to scream! Not at you, just the whole situation. It is so true that with all the limitations being put on discipline, we are creating very young, very violent children. Then when they get to school, they get labeled and put on medication (DRUGS!). There is nothing wrong with many of these children (I said many, not all. Obviously some do have legit problems). They are just kids. They merely need to be taught how to control their thoughts, behaviors, and emotions, rather than letting their emotions controlling them. I hate the fact that we took a legitimate social concern (child abuse) to such an extreme that we are now afraid to touch a child for fear of being accused of something. So we have the patients running the asylum. I am not talking about all children, just the ones that have absolutely NO discipline or structure at home, which is a heck of a lot more than I would have ever thought prior to doing daycare. Now the concern is not just about physical abuse, it's about emotional abuse. They are even taking the title of "valedictorian" out of schools because "it might make the others feel inferior". So we are supposed to be so overwhelmingly terrified of hurting a child's feelings, but then put them on drugs to get them to sit still. I can't even express how much worse the "drugs" are than simply putting your foot down and saying NO once in a while. I feel like John Stossel "give me a break". And whatever happened to "Just Say No" to drugs. How can we tell kids to "say no" to drugs WHILE we are pushing pills down there throats? Talk about mixed messages!
when i was in kindergarten, my teacher came to my house and picked me up in her own car on a weekend and then picked up two other kids and took us for ice cream as a reward because we never got one ticket pulled the whole year. there were three tickets - green, yellow, and red. once you got the red one u lost recess or something. you wouldn't find a teacher that would ever dream about doing that today, much less talking about it, or DOING it!
we had a whole class talking about possible lawsuits/what to do/what not to do, etc. make sure the door is always open if you have to be alone in the room with a kid...don't hold them, etc. it's insane.
there was a teacher locally who got sued by a teenage boy's parents because he grabbed him by the arm when the boy was out of control. it ended up being dropped, but the charges actually got filed and apparently a prosecutor thought it was a legitimate claim.
yeah, so, you're not likely to find a teacher trained in restraint because it's not required and they sure aren't gonna sign up for it.