Originally Posted by new unregistered:
We decided to find a new place for my son, however I also think I should find a new place for support. Appearently the daycare community is very close knitt if this is how you treat others who are just coming looking for advice.
Thanks for all the people who were understanding and helped! 
First.. there are some really good parenting sites where you will find mostly parents, not providers online. The occasional provider will chime in. Check out Mothering.com's forums. They have all sorts of boards, and a working parents board. You could ask this same question and get totally different opinions from different forums. But, be open minded.
Second, no matter where you put him, he'll run into a bully. I feel bad for the other kid who's mom clearly doesn't want him. If you turn in the provider, most likely it's the parent who will be charged. So, if you like this mom, I wouldn't make any reports.