I'd term.
The kid I
might be able to change with effort and time, but not his mom.
IMPE, mom's who say things like that about their own kid like the fact that their kid is "difficult" because it nets them (mom) attention (histrionic feed). The kid also feeds into it because it nets them attention from mom whether negative or positive (behavior plan rewards).
* I am also assuming the child is over 3 since they can reach light switches.