Originally Posted by Unregistered:
How many hours a week is the child in your care? It sounds like the child has been exposed to abuse, or alternatively has learned that he can do no evil (by your daughter not being firm with him), or he could have good intolerances, a disorder, or it could be the very discipline strategy you used with him. You had him for a substantial amount of time yet all blame is pinned on the mother. Ever consider that putting a toddler in a corner is not actually guiding into more positive habits. You are teaching him that you are more powerful than him, which alleviates anger on your behalf but may actually make the problem worse as he feels out of control of his environment. He is still so young and you are all talki about caging him up and strapping him down in high chairs. I can just imagine the screaming - will this really teach a child and form new neurological pathways. No. It may be effective at preventing attacks. It sounds like this was a child in need (looks like an old thread). Get a good baby carrier like an ergo that goes up to 18kg and keep him warm, cuddled and secure and out of trouble. Put all thrown toys up high. Remove dangerous objects from his reach and allow only soft toys down low. This has become a habit and he is struggling to express something. Teach him "gentle hands" (demonstrate, hold his hand and stroke gently) this is how you should have handled it from the beginning rather than reacting in a way that caused frustration and did nothing to actually TEACH. Kids can't learn if you don't teach them.
Seriously? Pulling up an old thread and not even reading it thoroughly before responding? (OP stated how many hours she had the child, and it wasn't very many a week)
I am sure after almost 2 years this situation is now resolved! What is your point in bringing up this old thread and "schooling" the OP? Do you want her to teach him "gentle hands" now after 2 years? Do you want her to hold a now 4 year old's hand and stroke it gently?
