There's no easy or "nice" way to handle this one for some kids.
I have two here who lose their heads when parents show up and it drives. me. bonkers.
They were plenty old enough to understand so I tried removing privileges the following day too for quite some time and it didn't work. I tried firing off an email about liability and safety concerns and that didn't work either.
I ended up doing two things:
1.) confronting the child right in front of the parents. It was bad enough that I didn't care if I was viewed by mom or dad as the meanie. I got right down to their level and asked them loud enough for parents to hear "Why are you behaving like this? You never kick the rocks during the day because you know it's a rule, so why are you doing it now?" Kids know why they're doing it, but if they're old enough they are going to be pretty hard pressed to answer, maybe even embarrassed. If they're young enough to have no filter and respond with a "because mom and dad don't care" you can bet your bottom dollar mom and dad will protest and THEN put a stop to it.
2.) on the occasion that sort of confrontation doesn't work long term you get the child ready, have them waiting out on the step, and then literally escort them by hand to the vehicle. Don't let the parent intercept midway as the kiddo will generally peel out the second their hand leaves yours. I've gone so far with one family as to put the child right into the carseat for them. Once the pattern was established it was easy to start weaning both child and parent off of the routine.
I realize the above will only work if your home set up is just right. I am lucky enough that parents can literally pull up to my front door, so that's what's worked for me. If you've got a lot of kids or your driveway isn't set up in such a way that you can just leave the front door ajar while you walk them the few steps then I realize it would be infinitely tougher.
Any way you dice this one though it's tough
