Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
Another thing that saved my sanity was to never allow myself to work harder at correcting or corralling an unwanted behavior than parents do.
It's not fair to you or the child. Parents should always be their child's first and most important teacher.
I spent years devoting time and stress towards "fixing" a child's unwanted behaviors while the parents went merrily on their way as I did their hard work.
Then I got smart. (shortly after I joined this board 
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I am DEFINITELY learning this as well! I have been doing childcare for a long time but always on a smaller scale and I have noticed that kids and parents have CHANGED. All the kids I care for have some sort of special needs.