Originally Posted by Unregistered:
She already knows more than the provider is legally allowed to disclose. I would seriously question this provider's judgement.
Assuming it's the provider who shared all of this info. Maybe the dad told the friend who told the OP. Or maybe it was a friend of a friend, which isn't as weird as it seems. I've had several situations where dc families discovered that they had friends in common that they didn't know about before.