As others have said, no, her hitting is not normal.

What to do? When the kids are in my area, and they do something not acceptable, I call them out, just like any other time they do something not acceptable. She kicked her mom? "DCG, kicking is not OK. If you are angry, say 'I am angry" but we never hit someone when we feel angry". Mom will either get the hint or be upset that you corrected her child in front of her. If it's the latter, they need to be gone.

You might have a parent that needs modelling. You might have a kid that gets overstimulated. Whatever it is, your consistency when handling the situation every time will sink in.


Myself, I'd try again with mom and keep correcting the behavior. If it doesn't change after a period of time that you feel comfortable with, terminate. You will find someone to fill that spot. Someone who doesn't make you dread opening the door in the morning.

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