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Old 02-01-2019, 11:18 AM
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Originally Posted by CityGarden View Post
Yes my dd is SA and away at school - my program is peanut free which I have in red bold text in the contract and they initial that line. All my parents have been respectful to this.... I also open lunches prior to giving them to the kids so if there are any issues (choking concerns, peanuts, etc.) I pull those out and will return them with a little note reminding them of our policies. We have not had any issues with the peanut policy and parents in my area are used to it and respect allergies, many are thankful for my policy - others just know it is the new reality even one of our public elementary schools is completely peanut free & most of the private schools either have peanut free classes or peanut free schools.

I allow people to bring food in our home, etc. we all wash hands and I always ask prior to them entering if they have any items with peanuts. Maybe my dd is older than yours but everyone in our lives know about dd's allergy..... and all have been respectful and supportive.

With changes to insurance drug coverage my insurance switched to generic only as well... My pharmacist/pediatrician was able to dispute the insurance company denial because it was a life threatening item. It was a process and took about a week between the pharmacist, pediatrician and the insurance company but they did all the work ---- I just had the hassle of going to the pharmacist twice and having to wait about a week. I would talk to your child's pediatrician - if they are unwilling to allow the generic either due to lack of availability or because it is not as effective for life saving drug there are ways to contest.

Hopefully the new congress will get a handle on these extreme cost of drugs so insurance companies don't feel forced to put consumers in corners like these - in this case it is the rug companies charging so much that is the blame, insurance companies are just reacting to those crazy drug prices by limiting us.

I disagree with your statement above mom knows she has a peanut allergy... the difference is you have no food obligation to the mom. If your son with a peanut allergy as you describe above was the parent in the description above. I would be concerned about the following...

Your son, now DCD picks up child not knowing child had peanuts at snack. Signs child out, buckles child into the car seat in close range of ingestion, gets in car to drive home, goes into anaphylaxis shock, crashes car, kills both himself and the child.

another example

Your son, now DCD picks up child not knowing child had peanuts at snack. Signs child out, gives child kiss before putting them into the car and goes into anaphylaxis shock in the middle of the street / parking lot leaving a preschool in a street / parking lot to potentially be hit by a car and possibly killing them both.

another example...

Your son now DCD picks up child, provider informs him the child had peanuts at snack DCD now needs to stay away from his own child and leave the daycare w/o child, child is upset DCD came and did not take them, DCD calls the mom to pick up now making pick up time late and owing a late fee. DCM picks up child ensures child is clean and safe, to be overly cautious DCD should still not kiss child for period of time.

It is not about the not wanting to poke the little one with shots it is about IF YOU KNOW YOU HAVE AN ALLERGY YOU TAKE CERTAIN PRECAUTIONS. None of those example above are dependent of IF the child had an allergy.... Sorry to be so blunt in my examples above but these are the types of situations I try to think out with my daughter as she becomes more independent and out in the world without me and while I do not recall the age of your son I hope you arm him with this sort of knowledge when he gets to the right age as well.

You do not have an obligation to the mom's health but mom was right to ask for an accommodation based on her own allergy, it is your as the provider right to deny that request and IF it were my daughter and grandchild I would hope my daughter would just move on to a daycare that would not put her life (and my grandchild's life) at risk.
I think it's wonderful your families are respectful of your policy I have had less than respectful families - oddly enough the mom in question here brought in her child eating a granola bar...with peanuts. Despite not allowing outside food.

I actually agree with you on the bolded part... for most families. With this family, I question the severity of the allergy. Or even the knowledge surrounding her allergy. And while I understand allergies can and do change. To not even have an idea as to what yours is like, is just so odd to me. Two recent examples:

Mom lives with extended family. When speaking to her about the allergy form requirement for her child she then told me "I am not so sure she will be allergic. She drank some of her cousins almond milk the other day and was fine." (using your example above, if mom was truly allergic herself and had those same concerns for her child, mom, nor her child, should not have had contact with the almond milk, period. That would have been a precaution that would have been taken.)

We also did a project with almond butter the earlier in the week. Knowing what mom's told me about her allergy I sent her a text asking if it was safe for her to handle to project since it contained almonds. Her response? "Good question." Then she went on to say how her allergies have changed as she has aged and she doesn't really know. In telling my husband about it later that evening, I actually sighted an example similar to yours. I didn't want mom to handle the project, have a reaction, crash and something happen to mom and the child.

My frustration isn't with those who have true, diagnosed allergies. I completely sympathize with those who do because it because such a huge source of fear. And that is rough.

My frustration is with those who shout "I am allergic to xyz" who don't actually know if they truly are allergic, don't want to put forth the effort to get tested or arm themselves with knowledge, but expect others to jump through hoops for them.

ETA: Mom also did not ask me to avoid nuts because of mom's own allergies. She asked simply because child had not been tested. Once pedi wrote the note and gave the okay, mom was/is fine with child eating nuts. This had nothing to do with mom's allergy as a safety concern for herself. This was about mom having a suspicion her child may have her same allergy, choosing to not get her child tested, but asking others to make accommodations on that suspicion.
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