Originally Posted by care giver:
Tried the coloring book today as he was acting out again in the morning and after lunch. After lunch when he acted out again, I took him out of the group and he said to me"now I get to color". It doesn't seem to mean anything to him except he thinks when he acts up now, he gets to color. So it is not resolving the problem at hand, so I need to do something else to get him to understand that it is not nice to take toys away and push the other kids. He is a very smart boy! Having him sit with me or be with me while I do something will not work either as he will start to wander and I tell him to get back here and he starts his tantrum thing and screams. Besides terming him, what other ideas does anyone have as to how to get through to this kid,make him understand that he can not do what he is doing, but giving him some other thing to do is not getting through to him,he just thinks what he did was ok and now he gets to do something else, do you see what I mean? Nothing is working and he keeps doing the taking away and pushing. It is not solving the issue. I am at my wits end,never have had a child that is so stubborn and won't listen.
I choose this time to do something super fun with everyone else. I have a rice tote they get to play with on rainy days so I got that out and let the toddlers play in it while the preschoolers did craft. And then the preschoolers got to play in while toddlers did craft, all where he could see what was going on. It drove him crazy!
He got sent to the table for kicking/throwing toys (toy hit his sister in the head) I used to do time out for it and it never worked. I did this to him ONE day and he hasn't thrown another toy since then.
Same with his sister. She pushed one of my toddlers down the stairs going outside to get to the swing set. She had to sit on the porch with just crayons and book while we were outside. She walks very carefully down the stairs now away from everyone when she does it.
Try to make sure he knows he's missing out on something when he behaves that way. And that your not going to tolerate it.
Best of luck!!!