Daycare.com Forum - View Single Post - Headed For Trouble? (Sorry Long)

Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
FWIW~ my statement about the single working mom and her expensive toys was very judgmental and I honestly did not mean for it to sound rude or nasty. I apologize if it came across offensive and should not have even made the statement in the first place. I have been there myself, as I said and made poor choices in which things I choose to buy versus what things I needed to buy with what little income I had....heck, I probably am still not as financially suave as I would like to be or should be.

In the case I mentioned however, the single mom I had did not get these expensive things as gifts or hand-me-downs. She purchased them herself.

She is clearly not struggling to make ends meet because of her limited income, but more so due to her priority list including too many "wants" and not enough "needs". This mom tells me alot of info I don't really need or want to know about her situation and my comments were strictly in reference to her as I was trying to support the OP by letting her know she didn't have to be the one to take the financial hit.

I also get the sad story about her poor financial situation every time it is billing time. She will continually try and negotiate with me about not having to pay her small co-pay or even ask me to waive it all together so in part, I do feel some of her bad spending habits are my business as it does effect my business....and I am by no means raking in the dough by doing child care so struggling financially is not foreign to me.

Again, I do apologize though if I was offensive or sounded judgmental.

have not read the rest of the comments/post but I did read yours and I thought to myself. Why did I bother to post. Your post was wonderful and I could have wrote it. I thought you gave good advice- Don't apologize for what you believe. Been here long enough to know that your a good person and you came from a good place of heart. Many of us have been doing this for a very long time and we know what works and we know what doesn't. AND.... we still grow and learn in our craft- As always take what you can use and leave the rest