Originally Posted by Unregistered:
Thank you! It has been insanely hard. I think since she was so colicky when she was little I developed a really strong bond with her.
It seems there are a few providers here that say they'd be OK with my staying. And then a couple who seem to be freaking out. So I guess there's a wide range. I think since my provider is new she might not freak out; doesn't have all the buildup from years of dealing with difficult parents. But I can see how it would come off as a slight and I don't want to diminish her confidence with my LO. And as you pointed out, there is the element of my "rescuer" mentality that might create too much anxiety while I'm there which wouldn't help anything. Eh! I need to let her know by today whether LO is coming tomorrow or not. Argh! There's so much to consider.
I think most providers are telling you it is not ok to stay-
If your provider is new, she might just not know you don't let a parent stay all day for that long, or needs the money so will do anything you want to keep you. What is the point of you needing care if your there that long? A big thing that would help is to have her in full time care verses part time care so that she can adjust better. Part time leaves no room for routine or a mixed schedule. kids thrive on routine. Best-