Since I see you said she said "No hit me" it appears that you need to find out who is hitting her. We run a very observed daycare. We use a digital camera to record the kids playing and show parents all the pictures and video clips. We have a 4 year old (and have had others in past years) that is very sneaky and we just went through an incident last week. During nap time (and certain play times) when we leave the room (with monitor on), we might be out of the open area family room for 2-3 minutes (constant checking on them and cleaning up at the same time). The only thing he ever does is sneak out of bed and get a toy, then run back to bed. No matter how quiet we are he gets in bed very fast, but we see he got a toy/book. We decided to take a video again. We were shocked to see he kept going over to our daycare girl (same age) and would hit her, then run to bed. He wouldn't hit her hard, that is why she didn't tell us/call us. On the video, she kept whispering "So, that didn't hurt" so it wasn't hard (she would have called out, we teach kids to speak out loudly and demand that whoever is touching them is to stop). We can literally hear the kids talking from the family room and didn't hear the quiet whispering.
We are getting a video monitor and he sleeps next to the entrance of the family room away from the kids, so we can see him at all times and it will stay that way, he sits more than an arms lenghth away from the others (I have also spred them out more so it won't make his distance stand out). I am very cautious and his access is monitored every second now. People don't realize, kids can be sneaky and you won't even be aware of it. A perfect example is on the show "Jon & Kate, Plus Eight" They said when they would view the shows, they would see the kids hit eachother and they didn't see it at the time it happened. They weren't sneaky, it happens with 6 1, 2, 3, 4year olds, but, there are sneaky kids that know how to get away with it.
Maybe a kid (older than your 22 month old) is hitting her and getting away with it (we also work with bukkies. it can be difficukt to catch). The thing that bothers me is, who is hitting her (someone is), is it the provider? or a child?
Do you or the provider have a digital camera, you would be surprised at what you see. Have your provider set one up, discuss it so the kids don't hear you or see the camera.
Now, I could terminate my 4 year old, but then that is throwing him out in the world with a potenial aggressive problem (we care for many problem kids and have a good rate of success). He was kicked out of several daycares (he is very developmentally behind, due to his parents not teaching/correcting things) He was on probation for the last week (due to the hitting, karate hitting/kicking at the kids).
You should set it up so she thinks you leave (you just shut the door and watch behind a chair or something, have her drape a blanket over something). It is extremely important she doesn't see you, so you can watch and if she does, she will always be looking for you, thinking you are there.
My worry id it sounds like she is being hit, kids don't freak out about others being hit and say "don't hit ME". "So, who is hitting her?"

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