Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
....because parents think they, you, adults etc should have to FIX everything for kids. 
Not every childhood situation requires a FIX.
Sometimes it just requires some support and validation for how they (child/children) are feeling as they work through social-emotional issues on their own.
Figuring that stuff on your own promotes independent growth in that area. 
Fixing it for them only creates dependence on someone else to "fix" or address their issues.
....which leads to having ZERO coping skills. 
This dcg is in for a shock when she goes to school. Her and her brother are very dependent on their parents to fix everything they don't like. Dcm didn't send her to preschool because she thought it would be to chaotic for her.
From reading your posts I think we are very similar in the way we do things. Thanks!