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Originally Posted by AmyKidsCo:

I was going to post that it sounds like a control/power issue. Try giving her LOTS of choices over little things you don't care about: Do you want 1 scoop of cereal or 2? (2 little scoops) Do you want a pink bowl or a yellow bowl? Do you want to wear your coat or carry it? Rinse, repeat ad nauseum.

I also agree that it could be that she doesn't have enough limits at home so she's pushing to see where the limits are with you so she'll feel safe and secure. The frustrating thing is that kids test limits under every circumstance - what happens if I do ____ on Monday? On Tuesday? In the morning? In the afternoon? In my pink shirt? Barefoot? Etc.

Hopefully a combination of giving her lots of control over small things and setting firm limits will help her get over her "meanies"

We are definitely on the same page!