Originally Posted by countrymom:
here too. And its been like this for 16 yrs. Dh always says that he never sees his paycheck--well of course he never sees it because its direct deposit 
Here, too. Like Meeko, LittleMissMuffet, and a few others here, we don't separate our money. We really are united in every way (since Nov 1992). Listen to us "little old couples." We know what we are talking about!
I will share our wisdom to marital success with you Brooksie: have a very honest and frank discussion about finances. Bring all your debt to the table, pool your salaries, and don't spend ANY money outside of an agreed budget without talking about and agreeing upon it first.
Don't be snarky or passive-aggressive with your mate. Love and cherish. Treat one another like you expect to be treated. Sincerely respect one another. If you actually love each other, act like it.