Originally Posted by nannyde:
It's not a complicated answer. It's not because they work long hours and are tired. We see the same behavior with parents of part time kids, moms on maternity leave who send their older child to care and just have one newborn at home, and sahms who put their child in daycare.
They don't want their child to cry. It's that simple.
They have no cry infants because they have read or heard that crying causes brain damage. Once the child is beyond infancy they continue the no cry. It isn't just for infants... it's for their childhood.
There are a large contingent of parents who really take pride in that their child's special and giftedness is that they get to defy normal human behavior that is fair, others thinking, respectful, and shows selflessness and self control. They like it when their kid gets to be violent and NOTHING happens except more loving and cuddles for the child. They wish they could be their child and do as they wish when they wish.
They don't address it until it affects them in a way that affects their money and time.
Meh. I read that study. That study was referring to CIO sleep training where the kid is left to wail for hours on end. I don't see how that crosses over to never letting the kid cry ever. Of course, I have to get after my husband and MIL for coddling DS when he throws a temper tantrum. I simply step around (or over) him and go into the next room until he can ask (or show) me what he wants. He's quickly learned that momma doesn't play that game.