I was a nanny when my parents died, about 18 months apart. When my dad died I didn't take any time off and was ok with that. Taking care of my babies seemed to be the thing I needed. When my mother died, in my living room, after a year of fighting cancer, my two babies were here with me in my home. Their parents were out of the state on business. Somehow, keeping it together for them was all I could think to do. I don't know what I would have done with time off. Slept, maybe. I was exhausted. Mom died on a Wed, funeral on Fri, bridal shower on Sun for daughter, back to work on Mon. I did take Fri off for the funeral but my babies were with me all day as were the parents. That summer was pretty crazy. Mom died and both daughters got married within 2.5 months.

Do what you gotta do. Don't expect the parents to care enough to act on your behalf. They only care about their own situation no matter what they will have you believe.

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