Why do YOU feel guilty that a family had an addition to their family? Why is that something YOU have to make adjustments for or discounts for?
You didn't choose to have another baby...they did. They must have figured out from the first one that they aren't cheap so having another one would definitely add to their expenses..... if they didn't and simply assumed everyone was just going to give them discounts for having multiple kids then they are in for a rude awakening.
You can't go through McDonalds and say give me two Happy Meals but discount the second one.....
As far as rates go, I took what the state paid out for child care assistance program and added a little to it. Whenever the state raises their reimbursement rate, I raise mine too.
