Originally Posted by daycare:
I've taken cesefel training and use a lot of these tactics.
So yesterday at pick up I talked to mom and while I was talking to dcm the dcb was really acting out. Dcb older brother was there and dcb decided to dump this box of little people, about 20 of them. Without asking the older brother picks up one of the little people and dcb flips out and screams in his face.
Dcm responds only to the older brother and got mad at him for touching one of the little people. I looked at dcb and said I'm taking these away because we don't scream in anyone's face, you can use your words.
Of course dcb starts screaming and runs to dcm who then babies him.
I tell dcm I'm sorry but two wrongs don't make a right. He is old enough to use his words and it's not ok to yell in someone's face because they touched 1 of 20 toys or for any reason.
Dcm just keeps nagging at the older brother while she rocks and babies dcb.
I just keep repeating to dcb you need to use your words. Dcm got upset and left.
So now i know why dcb is the way he is.
I really feel that this will be an ongoing losing battle that will never get fixed.
I can't change how they parent and so far all of my Methods don't work. ��
Well now you have a perfect excuse for terming. "Mom I can see by what happened the other day that we are not on the same page with how to stop dcb's behavior. I simply cannot let this kind of thing go on everyday. It isn't fair to the other children and my staff."