I hope things continue to improve as you continue to use your backbone!
Originally Posted by Denali:
Update:
Sunday mid morning DCM text me telling me that she just got my message that I left Saturday and called the bank to find out what was going on. She continued to tell me that her account has fraud on it and someone had spent her money. That she'd pay me cash Monday morning. I wasn't going to hold my breath but did remind her that my new policies were in effect, including late payments and returned check fees. She said ok no problem.
She did show up this morning with $300 cash. Eight dollars and fees short of being complete payment. She asked if that was going to ok and if DCG could come, that she could add the rest onto the next check (23rd), I made a "oh that's really not going to work for me face" and she responded that "or I can pay you the rest in 2 days when DCD gets paid..." I told her that would be fine, though if she brought me something from the bank stating that she was the victim of fraud that I'd be more than happy to wave the fees.
she looked uncomfortable and said she should've just made it the payment Friday in cash and we could have avoided all this trouble, that from now on she'd be paying in cash. I agreed that would be best ( didn't say anything about that I was gonna require it because it's always best when parents think it's their idea I've learned).
Told her about brightwheels pay online feature and that we can most definitely do that, since she always has her phone there would be no worry about forgetting a checkbook or having to go to the bank to get cash and run the risk of paying late and getting late payment fees. That she could pay me the morning of when payment was due without any fuss, and wouldn't have to worry about late payment fees as long as payment was authorized the day payment was due.
She said "oh that sounds great" and looked upset/unhappy when she left.
I'm going to put off terminating care with her because as long as I get paid in two days then I don't mind continuing as long as she's going to make payments in cash/brightwheel from now on. Though if she steps out of line or is late she'll get slapped with fees and the rulebook and be gone. We have enough emergency savings to last us a few months if we lose this family.
I have another child scheduled to start Thursday. The DCP's had wanted to start today, but had told me that they wouldn't be able to pay me until Thursday (also a military family). I told them no. And for some reason they thought that I wouldn't be charging them an enrollment fee because they are military..? I quoted them the amount for the two week trial period plus enrollment fee. When getting the total mom told me that she "would have to check and see if that was OK with dad. I'll have to make sure he agrees with the enrollment fee."
Made it clear when she was leaving after her interview that the price and fee wasn't an option and that the full amount would be due Thursday morning along with paperwork if they wanted child care here. She sent a text a few hours ago asking if I'd at least hold the spot until Thursday. I said yes, but if I didn't hear from them by then I'll move on. Again I'm not holding my breath.
I'm not going to stop interviewing. Though All the interviews I seem to be getting are these self entitled parents lately. Thinking that I should be able to do nanny type care, work for free or think I should be OK with getting paid after I provide care , and they're my boss and they can negotiate my rules.
I have an interview Tuesday for a 4 month old and 4 year old. I really don't want to take a baby, but than I actually know this family. The dad was a daycare kid of my mom's way back when. Our families have kept in touch and they were excited to find out that I had my own daycare and may have openings for his kids.
We'll see.
I will keep everyone updated on the current family and they're trying to make their money problems mine. I think it's been made very clear to DCM that I'm done working around they're spending problems and it will need to be paid on time every time Or no care and being slapped with fees.