Originally Posted by Mad_Pistachio:
I only wanted to chime in on the child's racial slur: this is something learned from another adult, and that adult is highly likely to be her mother - the one going off at you for your son's behavior. kids don't come up with that stuff by themselves.
That's exactly what I was going to say. Racism is learned it's not something we're born with. Obviously that child is hearing it from one of her parents. I would definitely terminate that family.