Extinction. I had a dcg like this, but maybe not quite as bad.
I still have the girl but she doesn't do it anymore. I had to just start not looking at her or hearing her. I still gave her +ve feedback, but more for behaviors that I valued in her and just a little bit for her performing arts.

My dcg is three years, since yours if four, maybe give her an explanation/warning that you can't always watch every single thing she does. Sometimes you have to watch other things. Then ease into the extinction and give reminders at times. I think the explanation and reminders help her know that you don't love her less, you just can't give as much attention as she's wanting.

Even better, as she gets older, explain that it can be annoying to lots of people, and she should just ask for attention a few times not all the time.

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