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Originally Posted by Unregistered:
I just need some advice on how you all would handle an 18 month old who whines/cries all the time. I think he is doing it to try to gain control. Some of it may be separation anxiety but for the most part I believe he just wants to be held or carried. I haven't had a child this age before my others are two and up. When they cry or whine I deal with it by actively ignoring, or re directing, or in extreme cases time outs. At 18 months will these methods work on him too? Please help!
I am currently transitioning a DCK the same age with the same issues. DCK was termed from another care place for crying and wanting to be held ALL the time.
In my situation, what works when I transition toddlers is for the adult to go to their level at ALL times. Have parents do the same at home.
Child can engage in and have as much attention as they want but it needs to be done ON THE FLOOR. Picking them up and carrying them around gives them the false sense that they NEED to be "up there" in the adult world.
They belong and need to learn to thrive in "their world" which is at floor level.
ANY time child wants to be picked up, I immediately sit. They can sit on my lap, play with me and converse but ONLY on the floor.
I am currently on week 2 and honestly since day 1, it has been NOTHING but improvements. I have asked parents to do the same at home. Not that they can never hold their child but just for right now until the child learns that ALL life happens at floor level at this age. kwim?
Parents can spend the whole night interacting with their child but if they do it on the floor, the child learns to feel safe and secure, thus will begin to explore on their own...
Parents are also seeing a lot of progress at home too.
HTH