Originally Posted by Mom2Two:
To me, if they will only poop in a pull-up, then they are not ready for underwear.
I charge "underwear accident" fees--it really helps discourage parents from wanting to bring kids in underwear when the kid isn't ready.
And eeeew on the poopy arm!! I had a 3.5/4 yo who poop painted my bathroom twice. I took photos, because it was so unbelievable. But when it kept coming across the photos in my camera roll, they always made me gag so I had to delete them.
I agree. Not pooping on the potty means to me she is not potty trained. A lot of kids show resistance to pooping because they are potty trained too early and feel too much pressure. It can be a significant source of trauma for them, and lead to constipation and even more severe tummy issues. I would keep her in the pull up, and of course, allow her to use the potty when needed, but until she is pooping and peeing on the potty consistently, she would remain in a pull up or diaper.