Originally Posted by Cat Herder:
As a possible romantic partner, I would assume you'd be more concerned about how easily she is able to manipulate you and distort reality to rationalize committing an illegal act.
IRL, White knights have short life spans.
I'd tell my adult sons "when women show you who they are, believe them." 
I appreciate the advice, but people tend to be more than just a few paragraphs in a forum. I don't agree with her decisions but I'm not going to get into a war of attrition over it with her. If that means I've been "manipulated" or am being a White Knight, so be it.