Originally Posted by Josiegirl:
Wow, nobody wants their kid to get bitten but aren't they over-reacting just a tad???? I'm hoping an attorney would laugh at them. One biting incident from a 2 yo does not make that 2 yo a juvenile delinquent. IMO most, if not all, small children go through something similar, whether it's biting, hitting, pushing, pulling hair, pinching. Their verbal skills just aren't developed enough to say 'hey, I want my toy back' or 'get out of my face'.
I would calmly tell dcm what your plans are to deal with the biting and that's no guarantee it won't happen again. Heaven help them if THEIR child ever bites someone!! Obviously g'ma's out of line demanding to know who the child is. I'd also give them some reading material about toddler biting.
Plus why is dcm siccing her mom on you when dcm is the only one you should be dealing with in issues such as this?? I think I'd have to think about terming if, after 1 bite, she's raising such a ruckus. ETA: The term notice would go to dcm and g'ma, not the biter. Geez dcm and g'ma, give the poor 2 yo a break to learn better behavior.
While biting is an undesirable behavior, and clearly we do everything we can to stop it, it is a typical toddler behavior. It usually takes a few weeks to months to stop. Most likely, there will be more incidents from the same kiddo until he or she learns other ways to handle their feelings.
So, if you're terming, which I wouldn't, I would term the bitee, not the biter. I would simply say "we are dealing with it. We will NOT give out the child's name. Quite frankly, it could happen again, no matter how hard we are working on it. If you have a problem with that, then you'll need to find another care arrangement, but please keep in mind that this is common toddler behavior, and dck could be bitten at the next place, and the next, and the next. Please remember, we do require 2 weeks notice.
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