I hate pacifiers too!
It's a personal parenting preference though, and I don't say anything until it's an issue for me.
If there was biting of the pacifier, I wouldn't allow them to even ENTER my house. Too much of a chance he could get it and choke. SOOOO not worth the risk. I'm really surprised your dcm was so nonchalant about it!
I have a dcb starting (just turned 2) in two weeks who is a chronic pacifier kid (one in mouth, one in hand) and I told Mom that I would be weaning them down to nap, she was ECSTATIC. She can't 'be the bad guy'.
