Originally Posted by Charlotte:
My 2 year old toddler said to me last week "don't hurt my pee pee" I was shocked and could not believe that she said this. Also in the past few weeks she has been complaining that her pee pee hurts. Tonight after my boy friend left she said that Aaaaa bites her pull up and when I asked her if he ever put his hand down her pullup she showed me by putting her hand down there. Earlier tonight when he was here I was sitting in the chair and he and her were on the couch - wrestling as he always does with her. I have been feeling increasingly uncomfortable with their wrestling/play. At one point tonight she was under a blanket and his hands were under the blanket but I could not confirm that he was trying to touch her. Something is wrong and I am just not sure what is going on. Perhaps it's nothing but my gut is uncomfortable with him and would like some advice. Other things I have noticed include he is always saying to her...you can't do it...you're not doing it right...I stopped him from saying to her...you can't listen. He also is insisting that I discipline her by saying things like she should not be telling me no or aren't you going to do something she she refuses to eat her food and talks back when she does not get her way. I feel me punishing her is forming an alliance between him and her and I won't be encouraging it. Any advice?
All you have to do is ask yourself who do you love more you daughter or your bf? Personally if I had any small suspicion that he was doing that I would dump him. I would also remind him that she is YOUR daughter (I am assuming he is not her bio father) and YOU will be the one in charge of her discipline and if he doesn't like it he can take a hike! My cousin tells all her bfs straight up from the beginning that her son has a dad and that even if things did get serious between them that they are not responsible for punishing her son (other then minor guidance when it comes to safety).