I wrote before about my discovery (per someone's comment here) of "The Crying Spot", and how it has worked like a charm for my 3.5 yr old dcg with severe separation issues (or excellent manipulation skills, whichever way you want to look at it
). Anyway, I noticed that a constant theme to it was that I was telling her "It's your choice to get up whenever you want. When you choose to stop crying, you can get up and play." "You need to choose whether you want to cry or NOT cry." "Pick which one you want, it's your choice." Etc.
So I have now started calling it the "Choosing Place". I tell her "Time to go to your choosing place and pick whether you want to keep crying, or stop crying and go play with the other kids. It's your choice."
Gotta love that "Choosing Place".
