Look up some of my threads regarding a crazy texting neurotic mother. I dealt with her for over a year. It was the worst. I tried to lay many many boundaries and in the end I closed due to Covid but I will never enrol a neurotic mom ever again. She did calm down in terms of being anxiety ridden about her kid but the texting kept going and going. Even after I closed. I had to block her in the end.
These types of people have no clue what a boundary is! She took years off my life I swear. I would try and nip this in the bud right away and just let her know what you CAN do for her. This is how my husband used to counsel me regarding her behaviour. Instead of s asserting “no I can’t do that”, let her know what you CAN do. So for example you telling her you can do the owlet for this week only is perfect. Don’t be wish washy in any way and the good thing is that you don’t care if she pulls or not because she is annoying AF
