My son age 4 doesn't nap. I also have another 4yr old boy who doesn't nap. During nap time these two sit/lay on the couch and watch a movie quietly. The nappers are in bedroom with the door closed. It's what I've found to work best. There has been a time or two the boys get a little rambunctious in which case the movie gets turned off and they're each told to lay still and quiet.

P.S. If this site required you to be registered to post (WHICH IT SHOULD) you could then take your unhappiness with each other to private messages as opposed to airing dirty laundry...

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