Whenever I advertise for assistants I state in the job description "due to licensing restrictions on ratio's, this position does not allow you to bring your own child." I am usually full so I wouldn't have an opening for an assistant's child. Even if I did, like you I couldn't afford to "give away" a spot. Plus there are soooo many issues that can occur when they bring their own child from favoritism, or ignoring, child not listening to you because mommy is there, assistant getting upset because you are disciplining their child, etc, etc, etc.

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