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Old 04-11-2012, 01:12 PM
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I've got a fairly new dcb, will be 3 in July. He is normal size, normal weight. He is SMART! He knows all his letters, uppercase and lowercase in a heartbeat. He knows all his shapes and he can count to 30. He listens well, but one thing seems just a bit off. He parrots everything back to me. I say, "Time to get shoes on." and he responds "Time to get shoes on." Or, "Are you hungry?" and he says back to me, "Are you hungry?" He has never answered a question. I've had his age before and I don't remember this type of behavior in any others. Thought??
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Old 04-11-2012, 01:15 PM
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I've got a fairly new dcb, will be 3 in July. He is normal size, normal weight. He is SMART! He knows all his letters, uppercase and lowercase in a heartbeat. He knows all his shapes and he can count to 30. He listens well, but one thing seems just a bit off. He parrots everything back to me. I say, "Time to get shoes on." and he responds "Time to get shoes on." Or, "Are you hungry?" and he says back to me, "Are you hungry?" He has never answered a question. I've had his age before and I don't remember this type of behavior in any others. Thought??
Sounds to me that his skills are not about being "smart" but more about memorization.....he "parroted" back what his parents (or whoever) taught him with his abc's. Which is something that he has now learned to do with everything, as you are hearing.

FTR, Rote memorization is not an idicator of intelligence.
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Old 04-11-2012, 01:20 PM
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Does he say anything spontaneously? Hold conversations? Or only parrot?
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Old 04-11-2012, 01:22 PM
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Sounds to me that his skills are not about being "smart" but more about memorization.....he "parroted" back what his parents (or whoever) taught him with his abc's. Which is something that he has now learned to do with everything, as you are hearing.

FTR, Rote memorization is not an idicator of intelligence.
Ok, I get your point. He may not be smart, but has a good memory. But the question still remains: Does it seem normal at this age to parrot back everything and be unable to answer even the simplest of questions?
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Sounds to me that his skills are not about being "smart" but more about memorization.....he "parroted" back what his parents (or whoever) taught him with his abc's. Which is something that he has now learned to do with everything, as you are hearing.

FTR, Rote memorization is not an idicator of intelligence.
bingo!

Sounds like this child has memorized a lot. If you really want to see if he can count and understand his words. have him count objects. You can't memorize that. Most kids this age can count about 4 objects, but can count higher than that. Which means that they have an understanding of what for means and anything that they can verbally count past that is from memory..

I have some kids who speak very well for their age. BUT that's it. Ask them their full name, you will get, I love pigs. Or what city do you live in and they will say Do you like my shoes. While they might have great verbal skills, they still can't process that type of questions just yet.
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Old 04-11-2012, 01:25 PM
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bbo, he will come up to me and say something gibberish and end it in "American Idol" He watches the show with his parents. He he will keep repeating it. Then he will switch topics, say to the dog, and keep repeating , "Dog, dog, dog." with some other words sometimes mixed up. He seems to get very fixated on a certain topic for a while. As for real conversations, no.
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Daycare, I'll try the counting thing and let you know how it goes.
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Daycare, I'll try the counting thing and let you know how it goes.
how long has he been with you. its possible that he is a product of a TV child.

My Niece who is almost five is still like this. She was thrown in front of the tv by her parents from the time she could sit up. She could recite lines from movies, sing every opening credit of most shows. She new every shape, color, count and etc.

But she could not hold a conversation. She ws used to just repeating what she heard from the tv. The tv does not ask you open ended questions and communicate with you.

Same exact thing as your child. She came to my daycare for about a week while the parents got divorced and they could find someone else closer to their home to watch her. I would say lets eat and she would repeat everything I said a million times. It drove me batty.

I told my in-laws (who are the ones practically rasing her) and my SIL no more TV. YOu guys need to start asking her open ended questions. She was 4 and doing this.

She is much better now, but if you ask her a question, most of the time she won't answer it, she will just give you a blank stare.
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Old 04-11-2012, 02:09 PM
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Jenniferdawn,

If I remember correctly you are in Sacramento County.....if you are, you can call Child Action and ask that the quality childcare collaborative come conduct an observation of the child. They will do this for free and then give you information and resources to help you help the child. Their number is 916-391-0191 or you can find out more on their website http://www.childaction.org
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Old 04-11-2012, 02:09 PM
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Daycare, nope on the tv thing. I'm pretty sure American idol is the only thing he watches. The dcm favorite thing about my daycare is that we don't allow tv, so I'm pretty sure they don't watch it much at their house.
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Daycare, nope on the tv thing. I'm pretty sure American idol is the only thing he watches. The dcm favorite thing about my daycare is that we don't allow tv, so I'm pretty sure they don't watch it much at their house.
maybe thats why shes bring the kid to you. She realizes that the kid has had way too much tv at home and wants a better environment for him. I helped my SIL pic out a DC and I chose one that had a NO tv policy...
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From some of the stuff you're saying, I'm almost wondering if he has a sensory processing disorder ... but there's too little info. to tell (and I'm not a Doctor).
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I was wondering if it could be something in the Autism Spectrim Disorder? There are so many different issues that fit in that disorder. High funtioning? I would see if that place that was mentioned earlier could come do a eval. Does not hurt to check. I think that would slowly drive me crazy.
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Old 04-12-2012, 06:44 AM
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Crystal, yes, I am in Sac County. I could do that. thanks for the suggestion. I'm thinking that it might be something like aspergers. His dad is very socially awkward which could explain the possible genetic link...
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I'm thinking that it might be something like aspergers. His dad is very socially awkward which could explain the possible genetic link...
I was thinking the same. My son is extremely intelligent and has excellent rote memory skills. Although his verbal skills were exceptional at a very early age, he would sometimes make statements in question form using the wrong pronoun. Instead of "May I have a cookie?", he would say, "Do you want a cookie?" If you are noticing other things like poor motor skills, poor social skills, poor eye-contact, etc., you may want to suggest the parent run your concerns by their pediatrician.
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I've got a fairly new dcb, will be 3 in July. He is normal size, normal weight. He is SMART! He knows all his letters, uppercase and lowercase in a heartbeat. He knows all his shapes and he can count to 30. He listens well, but one thing seems just a bit off. He parrots everything back to me. I say, "Time to get shoes on." and he responds "Time to get shoes on." Or, "Are you hungry?" and he says back to me, "Are you hungry?" He has never answered a question. I've had his age before and I don't remember this type of behavior in any others. Thought??
My 3.5 year old does that sometimes just to be funny. I ignore it and she usually stops. I think it normal. Annoying but normal.
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Ok well after reading what everyone else says maybe there is an issue if he is doing it all the time and not trying to be funny about it.
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