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lovemykidstoo 05:00 AM 05-22-2019
I beg of the parents of this generation. Tell your child no just once in awhile. I have 1 mom in particular. I mean they're all bad, but this one in particular constantly tells me how he won't lay still for diaper changes, won't keep his clothes on, won't put his shoes or coat on etc. I have none of those problems with him, none! She comes in today with a pair of shoes on him and another pair in her hand (ones I dislike). I think great a new pair!! Oh no, she takes the ones off his feet and says she's taking those home, those are his new dress shoes. They're little tennis shoes with velcro. I said why did you put them on him then? Oh it was easier than the fit he was throwing because he wanted to wear them. Then she tells me how he's sleeping with all of his books now because it's "easier" than fighting with him. He's 22 months old. I said ya better get a handle on it because when he's 3, you're going to be in big trouble. Every single thing he wants to do, he does it because he squaks at her and she just give it to him. He's typically an angel here, but yesterday he grabbed another little girl by the shirt and pushed her out of the playhouse. He got in huge trouble with me for that. This is what happens when you don't discipline your kid! How to get through to these people that just because they cry, you cannot give in to them!
lovemykidstoo 05:12 AM 05-22-2019
And I just had to get after him because he knocked down a big tower one of my dcg's was building with magna tiles. 15 minute hysteria. OMG someone told me no!
Blackcat31 06:25 AM 05-22-2019
I am astounded at how many parents are outright terrified of their child. These little people clearly run the show when with parents.
It's definitely not all parents but a good portion of them for sure.
And oddly, it's not really the types I figured would be that way. Teachers, parents in the medical field, social workers or those in counseling or therapy fields....
One would think those parents would know better.
Some of the 'best' parents I have came from or are in family situations that were/are less than ideal.
It's definitely not all parents but a good portion of them for sure.
And oddly, it's not really the types I figured would be that way. Teachers, parents in the medical field, social workers or those in counseling or therapy fields....
One would think those parents would know better.
Some of the 'best' parents I have came from or are in family situations that were/are less than ideal.
lovemykidstoo 06:30 AM 05-22-2019
Originally Posted by Blackcat31:
I am astounded at how many parents are outright terrified of their child. These little people clearly run the show when with parents.
It's definitely not all parents but a good portion of them for sure.
And oddly, it's not really the types I figured would be that way. Teachers, parents in the medical field, social workers or those in counseling or therapy fields....
One would think those parents would know better.
Some of the 'best' parents I have came from or are in family situations that were/are less than ideal.
I agree, isn't that something? Makes you wonder the psychology of it.I am astounded at how many parents are outright terrified of their child. These little people clearly run the show when with parents.
It's definitely not all parents but a good portion of them for sure.
And oddly, it's not really the types I figured would be that way. Teachers, parents in the medical field, social workers or those in counseling or therapy fields....
One would think those parents would know better.
Some of the 'best' parents I have came from or are in family situations that were/are less than ideal.
I just had my 3 1/2 yr old dcg carried in (again) by mom. She constantly has to have something with her that I promptly give back to mom. Today it was 2 jelly beans. I was pissed. She had them clenched in her hand. I said what do you have? Mom kinda chuckles and says 2 jelly beans. In a not so nice voice, I said you need to get rid of those, those cannot come in here. The baby will get them and choke. She stuck them in her mouth and ate them. I mean stop treating her like a baby. Carrying her in, letting her have whatever she wants to bring in with no regard to the safety of other kids. She only comes one a week and is done in 2 weeks, thankfully.
CountryRoads 06:31 AM 05-22-2019
I definitely know what you're talking about! I hear the "he/she wouldn't let me..." a lot.
A couple weeks ago, dcb was throwing a tantrum and was hitting his mom in the face and pulling her hair. She literally just laughed and did nothing.
I was speechless. I know it can be awkward to discipline your child in front of somebody, but come on.
A couple weeks ago, dcb was throwing a tantrum and was hitting his mom in the face and pulling her hair. She literally just laughed and did nothing.
I was speechless. I know it can be awkward to discipline your child in front of somebody, but come on.
lovemykidstoo 06:38 AM 05-22-2019
Originally Posted by CountryRoads:
I definitely know what you're talking about! I hear the "he/she wouldn't let me..." a lot.
A couple weeks ago, dcb was throwing a tantrum and was hitting his mom in the face and pulling her hair. She literally just laughed and did nothing.
I was speechless. I know it can be awkward to discipline your child in front of somebody, but come on.
I think if the kid is doing that, they're not disciplining them anywhere. I've had kids do that and I tell them, it's not nice to hit your mom. Not in my house.I definitely know what you're talking about! I hear the "he/she wouldn't let me..." a lot.
A couple weeks ago, dcb was throwing a tantrum and was hitting his mom in the face and pulling her hair. She literally just laughed and did nothing.
I was speechless. I know it can be awkward to discipline your child in front of somebody, but come on.
Mike 07:08 AM 05-22-2019
What many of those parents don't seem to realise, is that in the end, children actually do want to be disciplined. As they grow up, they realise that shows that the parents loved them and cared about them.
MyAngels 07:10 AM 05-22-2019
I have one right now who takes the phrase "You have to choose your battles" to the extreme. As in "I choose no battles at all." It's ridiculous.
TwinMama 05:04 PM 06-04-2019
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo:
I beg of the parents of this generation. Tell your child no just once in awhile. I have 1 mom in particular. I mean they're all bad, but this one in particular constantly tells me how he won't lay still for diaper changes, won't keep his clothes on, won't put his shoes or coat on etc. I have none of those problems with him, none! She comes in today with a pair of shoes on him and another pair in her hand (ones I dislike). I think great a new pair!! Oh no, she takes the ones off his feet and says she's taking those home, those are his new dress shoes. They're little tennis shoes with velcro. I said why did you put them on him then? Oh it was easier than the fit he was throwing because he wanted to wear them. Then she tells me how he's sleeping with all of his books now because it's "easier" than fighting with him. He's 22 months old. I said ya better get a handle on it because when he's 3, you're going to be in big trouble. Every single thing he wants to do, he does it because he squaks at her and she just give it to him. He's typically an angel here, but yesterday he grabbed another little girl by the shirt and pushed her out of the playhouse. He got in huge trouble with me for that. This is what happens when you don't discipline your kid! How to get through to these people that just because they cry, you cannot give in to them!
I have parents like this. They reason with them instead of just say no. They've also done the two pairs of shoes and the "he wouldn't put his clothes on for the day so we came in jammies".I beg of the parents of this generation. Tell your child no just once in awhile. I have 1 mom in particular. I mean they're all bad, but this one in particular constantly tells me how he won't lay still for diaper changes, won't keep his clothes on, won't put his shoes or coat on etc. I have none of those problems with him, none! She comes in today with a pair of shoes on him and another pair in her hand (ones I dislike). I think great a new pair!! Oh no, she takes the ones off his feet and says she's taking those home, those are his new dress shoes. They're little tennis shoes with velcro. I said why did you put them on him then? Oh it was easier than the fit he was throwing because he wanted to wear them. Then she tells me how he's sleeping with all of his books now because it's "easier" than fighting with him. He's 22 months old. I said ya better get a handle on it because when he's 3, you're going to be in big trouble. Every single thing he wants to do, he does it because he squaks at her and she just give it to him. He's typically an angel here, but yesterday he grabbed another little girl by the shirt and pushed her out of the playhouse. He got in huge trouble with me for that. This is what happens when you don't discipline your kid! How to get through to these people that just because they cry, you cannot give in to them!
It's annoying! I went to their birthday party and when I got there they were playing gymnastics on their living room furniture. Mom thinks she's being super cool by doing that.
They tell me how the kids pitched fits and are sassy to them. They say that they remind the kids that they don't think they look like friendly people when they talk back. 🙄 I try not to laugh.
lovemykidstoo 05:43 PM 06-04-2019
Originally Posted by TwinMama:
I have parents like this. They reason with them instead of just say no. They've also done the two pairs of shoes and the "he wouldn't put his clothes on for the day so we came in jammies".
It's annoying! I went to their birthday party and when I got there they were playing gymnastics on their living room furniture. Mom thinks she's being super cool by doing that.
They tell me how the kids pitched fits and are sassy to them. They say that they remind the kids that they don't think they look like friendly people when they talk back. 🙄 I try not to laugh.
The 22 month old dcb had a toy yesterday at pickup as mom picked him up He "wouldn't" give it to her after so many times her saying, go put it away johnny , go put it away johnny, give it to Miss Sheri, give it to Miss Sheri over and over. Then she said well we will remember to bring it back tomorrow. I'm like, yea NO!I have parents like this. They reason with them instead of just say no. They've also done the two pairs of shoes and the "he wouldn't put his clothes on for the day so we came in jammies".
It's annoying! I went to their birthday party and when I got there they were playing gymnastics on their living room furniture. Mom thinks she's being super cool by doing that.
They tell me how the kids pitched fits and are sassy to them. They say that they remind the kids that they don't think they look like friendly people when they talk back. 🙄 I try not to laugh.
Josiegirl 03:31 AM 06-05-2019
Originally Posted by lovemykidstoo:
The 22 month old dcb had a toy yesterday at pickup as mom picked him up He "wouldn't" give it to her after so many times her saying, go put it away johnny , go put it away johnny, give it to Miss Sheri, give it to Miss Sheri over and over. Then she said well we will remember to bring it back tomorrow. I'm like, yea NO!
That happened here too, so many times.The 22 month old dcb had a toy yesterday at pickup as mom picked him up He "wouldn't" give it to her after so many times her saying, go put it away johnny , go put it away johnny, give it to Miss Sheri, give it to Miss Sheri over and over. Then she said well we will remember to bring it back tomorrow. I'm like, yea NO!
I think all the parent guide books out there advise to pick your battles. Trouble is parents aren't picking ANY battles. They're letting their kids pick them and that isn't good for anyone.
lovemykidstoo 04:31 AM 06-05-2019
Originally Posted by Josiegirl:
That happened here too, so many times.
I think all the parent guide books out there advise to pick your battles. Trouble is parents aren't picking ANY battles. They're letting their kids pick them and that isn't good for anyone.
Yea pretty much they pick no battles lol. Also, it's really not her decision to take one of "my" toys home with her because Jr doesn't want to listen to her. Why she he, she gives in every time. Not to mention the "let them pick their battles" drives me nuts. I knew someone that said that constantly about her son when he was little and now he barely graduated high school, does drugs, works a min wage job with no motive to do anything better. She sure picked her battles with him.That happened here too, so many times.
I think all the parent guide books out there advise to pick your battles. Trouble is parents aren't picking ANY battles. They're letting their kids pick them and that isn't good for anyone.
Rockgirl 06:01 AM 06-05-2019
Dcd brought in dcg, 4.5, and said, “She has marker on her face. She wouldn’t let me wash it off...maybe she’ll let you.” Oh, brother.
Jupadia 08:34 AM 06-05-2019
I had a Dcb who last week his mom went through a tim hortons drive through, got her kid a hashbrowns. But he did not want that one, so she went through a McDonalds drive through to get him his McDonalds hash brown. I know this kid he would have cried and she would have gone. My kid would have been told to be thankful for the one he had, and crying only makes you have less stuff.
Firefly 10:19 AM 06-05-2019
Originally Posted by Jupadia:
I had a Dcb who last week his mom went through a tim hortons drive through, got her kid a hashbrowns. But he did not want that one, so she went through a McDonalds drive through to get him his McDonalds hash brown. I know this kid he would have cried and she would have gone. My kid would have been told to be thankful for the one he had, and crying only makes you have less stuff.
Oh myI had a Dcb who last week his mom went through a tim hortons drive through, got her kid a hashbrowns. But he did not want that one, so she went through a McDonalds drive through to get him his McDonalds hash brown. I know this kid he would have cried and she would have gone. My kid would have been told to be thankful for the one he had, and crying only makes you have less stuff.
