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laceylmm 08:16 AM 08-01-2014
Dcm should have arrived at 9. Didn't call. I messaged at 10 if kids were coming. At 11 we left to go to park and my kids end of summer carnival that I wouldn't have been able to attend if this family had shown up. It's in my handbook that parents have 30 minutes grace period after scheduled time to arrive. And that I need to be notified in advance or different drop of times. So at 11, as we are leaving she messages that two kids will be dropped off later (no specific time) and her bf must have kept baby and May or not bring her later. I responded 'sorry we have left for today and will be back around 2'
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craftymissbeth 08:20 AM 08-01-2014
I think what you did is fine. She can't expect you to wait around all day
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DaveA 08:48 AM 08-01-2014
You're fine. My parents know that even though I don't have scheduled drop off times anytime after 930 is fair game that we may be gone for an activity.
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AmyKidsCo 09:03 AM 08-01-2014
ITA. She was over two hours late without notice and you had asked her if she was coming, which she didn't respond to for an hour.
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SilverSabre25 09:26 AM 08-01-2014
I think you're fine. You were very generous waiting as long as you did.
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Mom of 4 LOGGED OUT 09:42 AM 08-01-2014
Originally Posted by laceylmm:
Dcm should have arrived at 9. Didn't call. I messaged at 10 if kids were coming. At 11 we left to go to park and my kids end of summer carnival that I wouldn't have been able to attend if this family had shown up. It's in my handbook that parents have 30 minutes grace period after scheduled time to arrive. And that I need to be notified in advance or different drop of times. So at 11, as we are leaving she messages that two kids will be dropped off later (no specific time) and her bf must have kept baby and May or not bring her later. I responded 'sorry we have left for today and will be back around 2'
I had this happen with one mom a few times. She got mad a each time. I finally said "Well, do you want to change your drop off time?" She said no. I said "Then you need to be here ON TIME, or I might not be available and you're losing money since there are no refunds." That did it, and she was never late again. She ended up one of my best clients afterward.
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EchoMom 11:06 AM 08-01-2014
I work with my daycare partner, both of us full time. We open at 8 and ask that everyone arrive by 9am because that is when we can really start the day - activities and outings. Some parents have gotten later and later and I do not wait any longer. It's happened a few times with a couple differnt familIes that when they've arrived I've already been gone with the preschool children and only my daycare partner is home with the infants. She lets them know that I've already left so their preschool age child is welcome to stay home with the infants but has missed the outing.
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melilley 11:07 AM 08-01-2014
I agree, I wouldn't feel bad! You tried to get ahold of them and waited around for an hour. She can't expect you to take the kids whenever it's convenient for her, especially when you made the effort to contact her and you had plans.
Did she message back or bring the kids?
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Crazy8 11:20 AM 08-01-2014
nope, don't feel bad!!
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laceylmm 11:36 AM 08-01-2014
So sister tried to drop kids off at 1:30 and gave my husband an attitude when he said no they couldn't stay. I had already told dcm I'd be back at 2. I pull in at 2:05 and she is at the stop sign at end of my road and waves for me to stop. I pullover about 25ft past her car just to see if she was trying to get out to talk to me or if she was turning around...no! She literally opened the door and let the kids run to my van. I'm still in shock!
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NeedaVaca 11:38 AM 08-01-2014
Originally Posted by laceylmm:
So sister tried to drop kids off at 1:30 and gave my husband an attitude when he said no they couldn't stay. I had already told dcm I'd be back at 2. I pull in at 2:05 and she is at the stop sign at end of my road and waves for me to stop. I pullover about 25ft past her car just to see if she was trying to get out to talk to me or if she was turning around...no! She literally opened the door and let the kids run to my van. I'm still in shock!

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melilley 11:59 AM 08-01-2014
Originally Posted by laceylmm:
So sister tried to drop kids off at 1:30 and gave my husband an attitude when he said no they couldn't stay. I had already told dcm I'd be back at 2. I pull in at 2:05 and she is at the stop sign at end of my road and waves for me to stop. I pullover about 25ft past her car just to see if she was trying to get out to talk to me or if she was turning around...no! She literally opened the door and let the kids run to my van. I'm still in shock!
No way! I hope you have a conversation with the dcm later!
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Meeko 12:02 PM 08-01-2014
Originally Posted by laceylmm:
So sister tried to drop kids off at 1:30 and gave my husband an attitude when he said no they couldn't stay. I had already told dcm I'd be back at 2. I pull in at 2:05 and she is at the stop sign at end of my road and waves for me to stop. I pullover about 25ft past her car just to see if she was trying to get out to talk to me or if she was turning around...no! She literally opened the door and let the kids run to my van. I'm still in shock!
Thats a big no-no here. A parent must physically sign a child in and out
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laceylmm 12:06 PM 08-01-2014
It's a no no here too. But the moms sister literally opened her car door, let the kids run to my van, and drove off. I even threw my hand out the window in a wth gesture!
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Meeko 12:11 PM 08-01-2014
Originally Posted by laceylmm:
So sister tried to drop kids off at 1:30 and gave my husband an attitude when he said no they couldn't stay. I had already told dcm I'd be back at 2. I pull in at 2:05 and she is at the stop sign at end of my road and waves for me to stop. I pullover about 25ft past her car just to see if she was trying to get out to talk to me or if she was turning around...no! She literally opened the door and let the kids run to my van. I'm still in shock!
Thats a big no-no here. A parent must physically sign a child in and out every day
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rosieteddy 12:24 PM 08-01-2014
I o not allow drop off after 10;30 am ever. This is daycare not a babysitting service, I tell parents up front about this policy so no surprize.
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EntropyControlSpecialist 12:29 PM 08-01-2014
Originally Posted by laceylmm:
It's a no no here too. But the moms sister literally opened her car door, let the kids run to my van, and drove off. I even threw my hand out the window in a wth gesture!
...and after that I would NO LONGER be allowing SISTER on my daycare property/as the person to drop off the kids because she is a huge liability waiting to happen.
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