knoxmomof2 02:32 PM 05-01-2019
For those that have the parents do the potty training weekend and then require 2 weeks dry in PullUps before they can graduate to undies... What if the child isn't actually potty trained when they come back from the potty training weekend with the parents? I'm considering starting this method myself, but I could see a parent claim it went well and then I've just got a kid in PullUps for eternity. Kwim?
My latest "potty trainer" is on a deadline because he got accepted into a private preschool for Fall but has to be potty trained. Mom and Grandma are convinced he's "holding out on them". He could care less..... He's a bit quirky so there's a chance there could be some issues, but he passed this big Preschool application process with flying colors so I don't know, but just looking for some feedback. I can see them sending him Monday and claiming he did things he didn't because they're on a deadline here.... How do you handle that? Have you had it happen?
happymom 03:04 PM 05-01-2019
It's spring, so don't they still have 1.5 seasons until he starts this new preschool?
I am just curious because you mentioned that their deadline is here.
boy_mom 03:16 PM 05-01-2019
Honestly, it doesn't matter to me what they say at home, it only matter what happens at daycare.
A potty training child would need to be able to let me know they need the bathroom and pretty much do it themselves once in the bathroom. I'm happy to assist while they are still perfecting their skills, but I wouldn't sit a child on the toilet and do the whole process for them.
Children also have to be dry in pull ups to be considered accident free, so regardless of their deadline, I would have my own 2 week policy that I follow. Any accidents resets the 2 week clock for when they can be diaper free at my home.
I also refuse to potty train a child who is not actively interested in learning. So regardless of what parents say, I would decide what happens at day care.
I guess that's all a really long way of saying do what you need to do during group care, regardless of what is happening with parents at home!
Ariana 04:25 PM 05-01-2019
The parents supply the pullups so I use them for as long as the parent wants me to use them, its their bank account!
If I let them know every day that their kid pees in their pullup and they are telling me that at home he is using the toilet all the time then thats all I can do. I just let them know that he has to be dry for two weeks in a pullup before I make the switch. Like all of us, we know when a kid is not ready and has zero skills in toiletting.
The only exception to this is my current DCG. The parents have been potty training her since she was born so I started working on independent toileting with her for the past few months knowing that one day the parents would bring her in undies. Today was that day. She never asks to go but I put her in undies because I can easily send her to the toilet independently so it isn’t interfering with my day at all. For me the pullups are all about kids with zero toiletting skills where the parent brings them at specific intervals AND does everything for them. Those kids go in pullups here.
storybookending 04:59 PM 05-01-2019
What the PP have said but I no longer allow pull ups. Diapers until they can pass the 2 week dry period only.
lovemykidstoo 06:07 AM 05-02-2019
All of my kids that are toilet training wear pullups. So much easier to pull down and go to the bathroom with those vs diapers. If the goal is for the child to be independent and go to the bathroom on their own, are they going to be able to take the diaper off and put a diaper back on after going on the toilet? I dont' know why people dislike pullups so much.
Do people really have their kids trained in 2 days on a weekend? I can see starting the process, but 100%?
I agree, do what you do, don't base what you do on anything the parent says because most of the time it's padded information if you know what I mean. I have a 3 year old right now that is wearing underwear. She has told me she's had to go maybe twice. I just have certain times of the day that the kids go. Well, yesterday she sat in my chair and was messing with her pants. It wasn't until dad came that I realized she had an accident. She talks non-stop all day. Why would she not say hey I have to go ugh
Jupadia 06:13 AM 05-02-2019
The only kid I worry about potty training is my own who will be 3.5 in July
He is also on a deadline cause he starts jr. Kindergarten in September.
Other peoples kids and there deadlines are not my concern. I've got two other kids (who will be 4 before school start) who have been potty trained but it happened at home not here. They were both dry for two weeks before allowing underwear.